Patriarchy's Deep Roots


Possibly a system that emerged out of insecurity,
An attempt to protect now is authority.
The father is supreme and the son gets the property.
Rules and norms further intensify the disparity.
Independence and equality shall be doom, is the prophecy.
As they whistle and stare they also preach morality.
Rape is the culture that worships virginity.
Can’t see the gaps in rights, pay or opportunities?
Humiliation, guilt and blame are tools to tame the temerity.
You know we are talking to you. Spare us the insularity.

*The above poem has been written in the Acrostic style of poetry where the first letters of each line spell out the word.

Patriarchy is an invisible monster and as a society we need to put an end to the power struggles it propagates. When we trust and believe in one another, we will all be able to grow. It’s not idealism, it’s practicality. More women in the workforce will only lead to more prosperity. 

As per this year’s Economic Survey, we have made significant improvements in gender inequality in a lot of aspects. But on close inspection, we still have a deep-rooted gender bias against women. This is reflective in our “meta preference” for sons. Parents have children until they have a desired number of sons – taking the number of “unwanted” girls to 2.1 crores according to this year’s Economic Survey. Mind you, before you begin to think that this happens only in impoverished rural families, the Survey pointed that it prevails also in middle and upper-middle class families as well. 

Sex determination is an offense. No problem! We still have a way to circumvent it…keep having kids till we have a son! 

Our workplace statistics are startling: 

a. The labour force participation rate for women is falling: from 37% in 2004-05 to 28% in 2016. 

b. The Pipeline for Women Starts Small and Continues to Shrink 



c. Women earn 57% of what their male colleagues earn for performing the same work with the gender pay gap widening with her education and advancement in her career. 

d. Read more about the pay gap issue in Women’s Cricket here

I have already spoken about the representation of women or lack thereof in our films and the Indian legal system

Whether a woman has the right to go out or the right to raise her voice against assault or name her assaulter or change her name, it is not a decision for the system to make – it is hers and hers alone. We need to abort the growing sexism

My fight against the system of Patriarchy, makes me an Incorrigible Feminist. When will you become one?



Comments

  1. Loved the acrostic poem. Of course it shows your creativity, but it also shows how much gender equality means to you.

    This was from the heart.

    Cheers,
    CRD

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    1. Thanks Chris. Really appreciate the support. :) :)

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  2. A hard hitting post Ashwini. Patriarchy is a very deep rooted. It has existed from centuries. We may never be able to remove that completely from the psyche. We can make our sons and daughters better in understanding. That is the hope. Btw, great poem

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    1. Thanks Meena. It worries me that if today things don't change, a lot will remain the same tomorrow as well. Let's hope.

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  3. Anonymous9:28 am

    Love the poem. Patriarchy is deep rooted and that's why it's so difficult to uproot it. Only 2 things we can do 1- teach our kids right and2- not accept patriarchal norms- question and defy it.
    Priya from priyreflects

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    1. Thanks Priya for the visit and comment. We must do all we can to put an end to the system that puts boys first.

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  4. The poem is incredible. On the pay gap issue, I think it is down to the output that the two formats put out. Men's cricket has higher audience and inflow of money and this is then used to pay their salaries. The bias here may be in the issue that we don't watch women's cricket due to our own biases

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    1. Hmmm women's tennis has equal number of watchers as men no...then why not cricket. Pls tell me it's not because the women fully cover themselves in cricket!

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    2. Thanks for your visit and comment Arjun. :)

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  5. Amazing poem. This statistic is so sad:
    'taking the number of “unwanted” girls to 2.1 crores according to this year’s Economic Survey. Mind you, before you begin to think that this happens only in impoverished rural families, the Survey pointed that it prevails also in middle and upper-middle class families as well."

    Patriarchy is very much present in middle and upper classes - for example, I've seen girls after marriage having to take permission from husband and in-laws just to go to their parents house! And, excuses like my husband can't cook - how will he manage. Never understood this mentality and why women accept it.

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    1. The statistics are scary and we we must work hard to stand up for our rights. It's not easy. Thanks for your visit and comment.

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  6. Sad but true. Thank you for writing this amazing poem.

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    1. Hi Kalpana. :) I expressed my feeling cuz I am one of the few privileged women who can. And I intend to do all I can to raise as much awareness I can on the issue. Thanks for the visit and comment. :)

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  7. I think it's time we stand up and challenge patriarchy. I think more than women, men must help bring in the change. A hard hitting and powerful expression in the form of Acrostic style of poetry, Ashwini.

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    1. Thanks Shilpa. :) It was my first attempt. Its a form of poetry I got to know from fellow bloggers in the A-Z challenge. I agree men need to join the movement for sure, for us to truly change mindsets...else it won't happen.

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  8. Such a lovely poem. Enjoyed the style immensely too. Very informative as well. Here is an article that may be interesting to you https://kanikag.com/women-social-the-origin-of-patriarchy.html

    In particular you may want to read in this article i linked up to there http://www.denisdutton.com/baumeister.htm

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    1. Hey Kanika. Thanks for the link. I had known that it was the insecurity that makes a man not know for sure if he were the father ( prior to DNA tests) that gave rise to the system. And then of course we adopted an agrarian society that gave birth to patrilocality. But didn't know some other facts mentioned in the link. Thanks for sharing. Love it when my readers have valuable insights and knowledge to share.

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  9. Rape is the culture that worships virginity! What a irony! Apt description of patriachy.

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    1. I had never heard about this style of poetry. I got to know about it from visiting your blog. Thank you for being such an inspiration. And thanks for your support. Truly appreciate it.

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